Family Law FAQ

How Do I tell my children we're getting Divorced?

Conflict and stress in a Divorce matter is difficult alone, but add the emotional stress of telling your children can often seem like a heavy weight on your shoulders. Many divorcing couples avoid telling their children of the breakup between the parents until a later date, and some just don't say anything leaving questions unanswered in their children's minds.

Therapists recommend in a divorce matter, that you and the other parent of the children sit down together and explain there is still alot of love to the children, and clearly outline the child does not have to choose between parents. Also inform them tthat you have both made an adult decision to move forward in your lives and this should help in the future.

Most likely your children will feel the negative impact a divorce can have. It is always suggested that you work together in co-parenting and provide professional therapy for your children. Knowing that children under stress are more vulnerable to physical illness, problems with peers and school, you can take a more positive role and provide well needed therapy to your children.

Listen to you children's concerns. Encourage your children to talk so you can address possible misperceptions. The help of a therapist will provide a more neutral setting for children and perhaps bring out their concerns for addressing by the therapist.

Let your children know that you support their relationship with the other parent. Tell your children that it's okay to love and miss the other parent and that having these feelings is natural. Hug your children often knowing they too are dealing with the conflict and stress of a family that is no longer together on a daily basis.

Your confidence and your reassurance about the new changes in the family will instill confidence in your children.